Want My Ex Back

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I have a question about my personal life, that is honestly one of the hardest decisions I’ve ever had to make in my life.

I recently posted the question on Y!A and only got one smart ass remark. I really need someones advice, all of my friends are bias about this so I need an outside opinion.

Is there a website I can go to and get an answer for sure, or does anyone out there want to help me leave your email! PLEASE.

So why is it that when we experience a breakup that we call it heartbreak, when every ounce of our being is hurting? We have feelings of pain in every waking moment. It’s almost unbearable.

What we project mentally carries on throughout our bodies and effects every ounce of our waking moments, manifesting physically, everything we are thinking to the point of feeling all pain.

I suppose when we get to this point we need to work ourselves back up to projecting positive, to ease the pain.

The first thing you need to know is that relationships do not last forever. If there is one thing we know for sure is that life changes all the time. But that does not mean that you have to give up and walk away from a relationship.

If you want to get back together with your ex boyfriend read the following tips. They are simple steps yet very powerful.

1.) You need to figure out the real reason the break up occurred as it is not always what it seems to be. Once you are honest with yourself and you have learned the real reason for the breakup you than have to something to work with.

If he is the one that initiated the break up and does not want to get back together, that’s ok. There is still things that you can do to win his heart back.

2.) The second piece of advice I have for you is to not appear to be desperate. Try to be very strong. This is important. Appearing desperate while only make him down on you. However, if you appear to be strong it works as an attractor. So keep your chin up.

3.) Keep the contact to a minimum. Both you and him need some time for clarity about the relationship. If you are always contacting him he will feel as though he is being nagged. If you make yourself scarce it may make him realize how much he misses you.

4.) You absolutely must get out of the house. When we go through a breakup it is very easy for us to want to stay home alone and sulk. This is the worst thing that you can do. The reason is that you will be sitting around doing nothing but thinking about him. You need to distract your mind through out the day in order to keep your mental health.

Couples experience ups and downs. It’s just part of life. But sometimes the downs result in a breakup. Knowing how to deal with the hard times is essential in preventing a breakup in the relationship.

Sometimes we just get caught up in everyday life and we forget to be considerate an thoughtful of our partners. We don’t stop to think how important our partners are to us and take them for granted. But when both people are going through hard times at the same time, we can be unaware because we are so caught up in our own worlds. If we neglect our partners needs we leave them vulnerable to someone else coming along and giving them the attention they actually need. Everyone needs people in there lives that give them attention and understanding.

We should always try to remember what is really important to us in our lives. And though life may be throwing tough situations at us, these things are only temporary. You should always try to keep in mind the really important things in your life. That would be family and love ones. You should always keep them at the top of the list.

You should always make time for your partner. If there are children in the picture, this makes it even harder. But you can always find someone that is understanding that may be willing to take the kids for a few hours so that you and your partner can have some get away time for yourselves. If you have family friends with older kids, find out if they are capable of doing a little baby sitting…maybe once a month.

When you go out on your date try to imagine it is all new again. Don’t talk about bills or kids. Sometimes we get all to familiar in our relationship. Try to come up with new and exciting stuff to talk about…as if you did not know each other.

If you are worried about your wife or girlfriend leaving you, or they already have, you may want to know the answer to the question:”why women leave men?”  It’s probably not what you think, and there can be several reasons.

After a period of time things pile up.  Little frustrations, hurts, insensitive remarks can all add up, and each little thing is like a brick in a wall.  After a while you are standing before one very big wall.  It is at this point where one party will just give up and say ‘Enough!” and leave.  You want to make sure your relationship never gets to that point.

One thing you may have to do is un-learn what you’ve been told about women and what they want.  If you think women are needy, and high maintenance you need to re-think this (of course some women are that way, but most of them are not).  While this may sound silly here is something you should try: stop thinking of your woman as a woman, instead think of her as a person.  Treat her the same way you like people to treat you.

One of the biggest mistakes men make is they either treat their woman like a sex object, a surrogate mommy, or they go to the complete opposite side and put her on a pedestal where they treat her like she’s made of china.  The best thing you can do is treat her like a human being. She has a mind of her own, needs, and wants. Get to know the real woman, not the person you want her to be, or think she should be.

Don’t lump all women into the same category.  Don’t assume your wife or girlfriend likes a certain thing or should act a certain way just because some other woman do.  Think about your male friends.  Do you treat each one of them the exact same way, or do you change your behavior slightly for each unique friend you have?

Women leave men because they are not happy for one reason or another.  Each relationship is different but at the end of the day your wife or girlfriend will leave because she is not getting enough of her needs met, it’s as simple as that.

Most women want their husband or boyfriend to be a friend and confidant.  They want someone who acts like they actually like them.  Many men don’t act like they even like their women and they certainly don’t treat them like a trusted friend.

Women have sexual needs just like men.  Our society has done a huge disservice to men and women because it tells men they have this huge sex drive and that it’s okay to pick up women whenever they want to and that women have to be good girls who will only have sex with their husband.

The fact of the matter is that is not true. Women have the same sex drive as men, they are just conditioned to not act on it whenever the whim hits them.  What women don’t want is to think that their man only wants them for sex.  Women will often disconnect from their men physically because even though they like sex they also like non-sexual physical contact and many men think they have to turn every incident of physical contact into a sexual encounter.  After a while your woman won’t even want you to touch her, and she’ll find someone else.

So if you want to avoid having your wife or girlfriend leave and you want to  answer the question: “why women leave men?” just follow some of these simple tips and treat your women like someone who you like and love and your relationship should last a long time.